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The Way of the Superior Man

David Deida

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From the book “The Way of the Superior Man,” the traits of the Superior Man include:

  • Pursuit of personal growth: He is always moving, climbing, and improving for his own sake, not to prove anything to others[1].
  • Self-reliance: He seeks what is within himself rather than coveting what others have[1].
  • Virtue over comfort: He prioritizes long-term virtue over short-term comfort[1].
  • Responsibility: He takes care of his family, understanding that wealth is not just financial but also relational[1].
  • Integrity: He has high moral standards and does not compromise his integrity[3].
  • Open-mindedness: He is broad-minded, free from prejudice, and open to learning[3].
  • Humility: He is modest and does not elevate himself above others[3].
  • Commitment to purpose: He is dedicated to his life’s mission or purpose, placing it above all else, including relationships[4].
  • Understanding of gender differences: He recognizes and respects the different aspirations and needs of men and women[4].
  • Embracing masculinity: He understands the importance of embracing his masculine core and the challenges that come with it, such as dealing with work, women, and sexual desire[2].

These traits are meant to guide men towards living a life of authenticity, integrity, and freedom, as they navigate the complexities of modern relationships and personal development[2][4].

Citations: [1] https://www.alux.com/superior-man/ [2] https://elevatesociety.com/key-takeaways-from-the-way-of-the-superior-man/ [3] https://trans4mind.com/counterpoint/index-meditation-eastern/confucius.html [4] https://auresnotes.com/summary-the-way-of-the-superior-man-david-deida/ [5] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZc5cwDJwtQ

“The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida is a guide for embracing one’s masculine side, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Here are the key points from the book:

  • The book is intended for the ‘masculine’ person, which can be male or female, gay or straight[1].
  • Everyone is made up of both masculine and feminine qualities, but most of us lean towards one more than the other[1].
  • The superior man is not seeking fulfillment through work and woman because he is already full. Work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts[1][2].
  • A superior man sees his woman’s moods not as a curse, but as a challenge and an amusement. There are many ways to creatively deal with her moods and help her to open[2][3].
  • An inner masculine and inner feminine exist in all of us, regardless of gender. Men generally are dominated by their inner masculine, and women by their inner feminine[3].
  • The “mission” or the search for freedom is the priority of the masculine, whereas the search for love is the priority of the feminine[3].
  • If you don’t choose and follow your direction, your partner will feel the need to do it for you, and won’t be able to relax with you[3].
  • Men’s life goal is to go after their mission/purpose. Women’s life goal is to find a loving relationship and have children[5].
  • The book talks about the differences between men and women and how men should behave in a relationship[5].
  • It also discusses the aspirations of men and women and explains what they are wired for[5].

The main message of “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida is about how a man can grow spiritually while passionately engaging with the challenges of work, women, and sexual desire. The book emphasizes the importance of living a life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. It suggests that everyone has both masculine and feminine qualities, but most people lean towards one more than the other. The superior man is not seeking fulfillment through work and women because he is already full; for him, work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts. The book also underscores the importance of understanding and respecting the differences between men and women, and how men should behave in a relationship[1][3][4][5].